Neil Graham

Neil David Graham

October 8th, 1954 - August 27th, 2023
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Neil Graham
October 8, 1954 - August 27, 2023

Neil Graham passed away on Sunday the 27th of August at the Agapé Hospice in Calgary at the age of 68. Husband of Valerie and caring father of Jonathan and Christopher, Neil was the youngest of three siblings and is survived by his brothers, Ian and Alastair. Neil will be dearly missed by his family and the many friends and acquaintances who survive him.

Neil was born in Edinburgh, Scotland on the 8th of October 1954. He went to school at Daniel Stewart's College in Edinburgh following which he attended St Andrews University, graduating with a Masters in Psychology. He met his future wife, Valerie, while spending summers grouse beating at Amulree in the Scottish Highlands. After completing his degree at St. Andrews he trained as a chartered accountant in Manchester. Thus began a rewarding and satisfying career that would lead to immigrating to Canada in 1981, working in the Oil and Gas industry in Calgary until his retirement in 2010.

Retirement provided the opportunity to pursue a multitude of interests, traveling extensively over the course of the next decade. His travels took him as far afield as Namibia, Iceland, Japan and Argentina. A highlight for Neil was a driving trip in Southern India that involved becoming a licensed taxi driver in order to undertake an adventurous overland drive in a vintage Ambassador taxi cab.

A love of golf led to Neil and Valerie purchasing a cabin at Hidden Valley Golf Resort, where they would happily while away the time socializing with the neighbors over a campfire or round of golf.

Scotland always remained home for Neil and he maintained a house called Tighnasith, which translates from Gaelic to 'house of peace', in Tighnabruaich, Argyll. He loved nothing more than tootling around the single track roads on his Royal Enfield motorcycle or in his vintage Morris Minor. He would often stop to admire the view of Arran from the Ardlamont peninsula.

Neil died peacefully at the Agapé Hospice in Calgary on Sunday the 27th of August 2023 after an eight month battle with cancer. Neil wished to thank the staff, nurses, and doctors for the excellent care they provided during the last two months of his life.

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Chris John Watson

Posted at 01:42pm
We have known Neil since the early eighties when we both had just emigrated to Canada. He was a work colleague initially, but we soon became family friends as he and Val moved closer to where we lived in Varsity. Before any family arrived for both of us, we used to ski primarily at Fortress as we embraced one of the benefits of living in Calgary. Our families duly arrived which took us in somewhat different directions as we followed our children’s interests. However, we remained in touch and enjoyed fantastic hospitality from the Grahams as recently as last year at their place in Scotland. I also went on several golf outings in and around Calgary in recent summers with Neil and Val which were always fun and relaxing.
Neil was an extremely intelligent and thoughtful individual but was also very practical, considerate, and kind. His love of all things mechanical was evident in the many cars and bikes that he owned along with his part interest in the bus. Tinkering with these seemed to give him great pleasure but he always liked to do things properly which is to be admired. Of course, he also had a great sense of humour and an infectious laugh and smile. He will be greatly missed by the many people that knew him and the world was certainly a better place for him passing through it.
He was a brilliant friend, and we will miss him greatly. May he rest in peace.
Chris and Doreen Watson


Shirlee Lamacchia

Posted at 07:49pm
Neil was one of my favourite people. A friend so easy to talk to, humble, kind, always cheerful and sincere. A wonderful memory is our trip to Scotland meeting up with Val and Neil. Neil graciously drove us from Glasgow to Tighnabruaich to Edinburgh. What a fantastic tour guide and amazing driver! Neil and Val were wonderful hosts! And we sat on that bench with Neil overlooking the Isle of Arran. These happy memories are forever etched in our hearts. Our sincere condolences to Val, Jon and Chris for the loss of such a loving husband and dad. He has gone too soon and will be so missed by everyone his life touched. ❤️Love Shirlee and John

Ian Graham Posted at 10:44pm

Thank you Shirley so much for these memories of Neil. You describe so well how he was the perfect recanteur; always there with something meaningful to say. And the fact that he always on the move in a car, a bus, a train or a plane. They had a magnificent retro RV for a while too that I only ever saw photos of unfortunately. We had your experience of him as local tour guide in Canada (and no doubt other visitors from the U.K., New Zealand, got the same treat) - being taken in the car to see sights such as Banff and educated by Neil all the way there and back in all things. Indeed in February, Jon drove Neil, Chris and me up to Banff for a boys lunch. Minus 32C. It was just about my first day of face to face with Neil post diagnosis and as you can imagine Neil and I, indeed the four of us, had a lot of talking to do. Neil was very much part of that discussion as we explored what lay ahead from him. And he pointed out sights as we went - ones I had apparently been taken to 40 years before! On that trip he expressed a hope that he and Val might go on the train to Vancouver in the summer and although he booked it I think in the event they had to cancel because he was just too ill. He still had the ambition to be an arm chair traveller even then.

Gordon Allison

Posted at 05:04pm
Deepest Condolences, we shall sorely miss meeting up with Neil on your visits to the United Kingdom. He had a very dry sense of humour combined with a gregarious nature. I will always remember the visit to Cambridge to view the Black Douglas and, of course his Royal Enfield.

Love Gordon and Rosie

Ian Graham Posted at 07:04am

Thanks Gordon for these memories; I so remember Neil showing off his bike to us. Like a child opening a special Xmas present. Lovely to see and lovely to remember

Pat strathern

Posted at 10:53am
Our deepest condolences Val, Jon, and Christopher on your loss We we’re very sorry to hear of his illness and passing, and know that his memories will I’ve forever in your hearts .
Pat and Joe Strathern

Ian Christopher Graham

Posted at 05:16am
Before they slip away from my brain, I want to capture some memories to better remember my youngest brother Neil. A life well lived that ended peacefully.

I’ll miss him and that sense of loss is I think accentuated because of what he/we have been through together not only these last eight months but also the last 25 years. In particular, I will miss his humour – very sharply-made observations, he was the joker in the family from early days. But I’d go further and talk of his quiet charm – an effortless ability to put you at ease and talk about anything as well as all things substantive. His personality meant that he was able to hold onto friendships over the decades – from school onwards. He was getting Skype calls from old school friends when I was in Calgary this June. Shortly after he elected to have palliative care, and long after he had retired, all his ex-work colleagues got together to share time with Neil.

I think I always liked him, a deep down sort of liking. My love for him grew as he battled stomach cancer this year. He had been so lucky to find Val so long ago and spending a week in June in Calgary with them only reinforced the obvious fact that the two of them had had a full and fulfilling life together.

Edinburgh – 50s and 60s

I would have been just 4 when Neil was born, Alastair just 18 months. Our parents had a top floor flat in a northwest Edinburgh suburb not far from where my father had been brought up and thus quite close to where our paternal grandparents lived. There was a communal garden behind the flat where we played as children and some scrub land too that was a favourite place to play together. This is where he was my wee brother - someone he stayed all his life! Dad would take us to the local park where there was a big pond and folks played with model boats there. Maybe it’s because there was a four-year difference, but my memory is that Neil was small (he was always on the front row in school photos) and perhaps because we were all still being rationed by the UK Government in terms of food post WWII.

Mum was an active member of the only Methodist Church in Edinburgh and we three would go with her each Sunday to attend service and then Sunday School. Our middle names (Christopher, Paul and David) all have biblical roots. Mum would, I think, be proud to know that Neil has displayed the same qualities as the biblical David – he was his own man and refused to be like everyone else, he did what needed to be done when faced with a situation, and he was committed. Neil and I became lapsed Methodists over time but for almost ten years church and church going and church friends were a core part of our lives. Mum found babysitters for the three of us from overseas students attending both Edinburgh University and church. For example, I remember first a Nigerian and then a Dutch/Indonesian who post-graduation went back to Holland and invited all our family to go to their wedding – provided all three of us boys wore tartan. It was our first ever flight. Exposure to other cultures at an early age was I think unusual in Edinburgh in the 50s and 60s and stood us both in good stead as we lived out our later lives.

Early on, we lived close enough to be able to walk to school and this we did together. Later we moved to a bungalow in the suburbs with a large garden and then we would all go together to school by public bus. Somehow Mum and Dad managed to find the funds to send all three of us from the age of 5 to the same independent fee-paying school that Dad had attended. Neil was the brightest of the three of us and when he went to the prestigious university at St Andrews, it was clear to all that he was starting to make his own mark on his own life and career. By this time, he and Valerie were already “an item” – they had met as teenagers when Neil went grouse-beating during a school holiday. They’ve been together for more than 50 years.

Dad would have liked to have become an engineer rather than an accountant but as a single child was forced down the auditing route by his parents. As a father, he would encourage us in engineering type learning, and I think there is no doubt that Neil was the son who most closely followed these ambitions. Witness the work that he and Valerie put into “the cabin” which for many years was a central part of their lives in Calgary. From an early date Neil was into cars and buses and he carried his passion for vehicles to Canada and has I think probably passed it on to Jon at least.

My favourite photograph from these times is Neil playing the fool in the empty rabbit hutch; I’m glad to see it has pride of place in the flat in Calgary.

The expatriate years – 70s to 90s
I was already an expatriate when Neil and Valerie went to Canada; their decision to marry seemed to me to happen almost overnight and displays this quality Neil had for quickly making major decisions and getting them right. Later he took early retirement, I’d say very early retirement actually, with what to the outsider seemed like similar certitude. We didn’t see very much of each other over several decades, as my life was led centred on Europe, Middle East, Africa and Thailand whilst Neil and Valerie built a home and a family and a life in Canada. At the time I was thrilled and astonished to be asked to be Jon’s Godfather. We did visit Neil and Valerie on at least one occasion when the two young boys were deep into dinosaurs and so we visited the museum at Drumheller. Neil also took us to see a receding glacier, the first-time global warming had been rammed home to me, I think.

Tighnasith – 00s to 10s
As Neil entered his mid-40s, he had achieved much in his career and had two sons, both playing in the Pipe Band in Calgary. Our parents were both very ill and died within 2 years of each other in the early 00s. Around this time, my then partner Rosemary and I bought the upper flat in a Victorian villa on the Scottish west coast. It was to be an anchor for us, a place of peace. Hence the name we gave it – Tighnasith. Neil and Valerie on one of their trips to see Mum and Dad came to see the flat and Neil gave it 9.5 out of ten and I can still remember him saying “and I don’t know why I am deducting the ½”. I have a photo of Neil and Alastair with Mum, then well into Alzheimer’s, in the garden at Tighnasith the day after my 50th.

Together we worked to enable Neil and Valerie to buy the lower flat, and so, for the last 20+ years, they have had a base from which to explore the UK, visit friends and have Canadian and other friends to stay. For the four of us, the arrangement was perfect; we were rarely there at the same time, so each pair had the whole plot to themselves but when Neil and Valerie were there at the same time as us, with or without Jon and Chris, then we were happy to share, to catch up over a cup of tea, sitting out looking at the sea and the sky and the moors and the passing boats. It brought Neil and I together after what had been about 30 years of separation into a very, very meaningful and mutually supportive relationship.

One of the many highlights was the day that we christened the new fountain in the garden. As I write this, I can hear Jon and Chris coming around the house playing the pipes and drums to the amazement and pleasure of our friends and neighbours. Then for my 60th it was great to welcome Neil and Valerie to our home Nymet in Noss Mayo, Devon. Later, when Rosemary and I got married, Neil and Valerie were there in Tighnasith with friends and neighbours to celebrate, and they gave us a tandem. Everyone there that day played a small role in putting a ‘wedding’ painting together of the view from our lounge which today hangs in our bedroom. Neil painted some of the sheep and some of the boats. Neil’s favourite view he said was from Ardlamont (a few miles down a single track road from Tighnasith) looking across the sea to the Isle of Arran.

Looking back, I now realise that Neil had morphed into a part time carer for Val as she went through several major operations on her skull and brain; Neil carried out this role quietly and competently.

This was a golden time for me; Neil and I were able as mid-aged people to forge a new relationship almost independent of the childhood one.

Calgary 2023
When I first heard of Neil’s diagnosis from my brother Alastair my immediate reaction was why him, why the youngest? It seemed, and seems, so unfair. And completely unexpected.

I spent a week in Calgary in early February and then again in early June. On both occasions we spent time remembering and exploring and challenging our perceptions of our shared past. Sharing common but different travel experiences to Ecuador, Okavango, India, Namibia, St Kilda and elsewhere. And we also spent time discussing the path he was on – together one on one and with Jon/Chris and/or Valerie. He had chosen palliative care quickly and without ceremony.

During my two trips this year he showed amazing courage. He was committed to getting things done, tidying up loose ends that the palliative care regime was giving him the time to do. On the first trip, it was great to get him out of the house and into Caesars Steakhouse where he and I shared a platter of escargots (the first time I think we shared food and certainly the first time we knew each of us had acquired a taste for escargots) before he managed 200gms of a 300gm filet steak.

My favourite photo from my second trip is of Neil, Val and Jon sitting on a blisteringly hot bench in Cochrane enjoying an ice cream – it would I think have been one of Neil’s last trips out of the Calgary he had made his home.

On these two trips, and in between, I came to see in Neil both as a a wee brother and also as a big man, a fully rounded man, with deep roots and yet also a passion for today and tomorrow. I knew what brotherly love felt like when I left Calgary in June. Since then, we kept in touch on Skype, and although at times he has tired, at times he has looked the very ill man he was, he remained even in August this year, the Neil I have known these past seven decades.

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